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Older men, younger women help everyone

Original post made on Sep 12, 2007

Older men in relationships with younger women affect the genes that increase human longevity and thus help future generations live longer, researchers at Stanford University and the University of California-Santa Barbara have found.

Read the full story here Web Link posted Wednesday, September 12, 2007, 12:06 PM

Comments (37)

Posted by Woman over 50
a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Sep 12, 2007 at 1:21 pm

Nice to know I am now surplus to requirements - try telling that to my kids when they want me for something!!

What a waste of research.

Posted by Man over 50
a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Sep 12, 2007 at 2:24 pm

Why not be joyful about this research? It might give your husband hope for the future. :)

Posted by Woman approaching 50
a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Sep 12, 2007 at 2:48 pm

LOL!! That's all I need - giving my husband hope for the future as I approach 50, myself. Where would he turn with that new-found hope?

Posted by Man over 50
a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Sep 12, 2007 at 3:27 pm

He could take a turn for the worse, but he probably won't - most men are not willing to sacrifice filial loyalty for something as mundane as improving the species. Besides, he'd probably have to go through a divorce - definitely not worth it!

Posted by been there
a resident of South of Midtown
on Sep 12, 2007 at 4:25 pm

Been there done me, it is fun for the first year or two, then REALLY, REALLY boring as you realize there is no common history, at all, in life's experiences, music, cultural and historical shared memory of anything. No common perspective or wisdom. Different needs for rest and rejuvenation, for comedy, different plans for the next 5 years or 10..

I severely regret learning this the hard way, instead of listening to the advice of wiser ones.

Posted by Theo
a resident of Ventura
on Sep 13, 2007 at 10:17 am

Pass the viagra!

Posted by Walter_E_Wallis
a resident of Midtown
on Sep 13, 2007 at 3:21 pm

A husband twitted his wife when she turned 40 that perhaps he would trade her for two 20's. Her response - you ain't wired for 220.

Posted by Sperm Bank
a resident of another community
on Sep 13, 2007 at 3:30 pm

Common sense would indicate that a sperm bank donation should do the job. All us old coots could contribute to humanity, without having to deal with a 20-35 young woman (and vice versa). If her husband can't do the job, at least she has a proven source!

Posted by janet
a resident of Crescent Park
on Sep 13, 2007 at 4:44 pm

Genetic defects increase with age, I wonder why the three men who authored that paper didn't consider that :-)

Posted by Man over 50
a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Sep 13, 2007 at 5:04 pm

Well, they tried, didn't they. :) maybe they were just funnin', after all?

Besides, they were just addressing the inheritance of longevity.

What worries me is that there has actually been developmental zygotes created from nothing more than DNA from two human female eggs. The implications of that is that men may not be necessary in the future.

Gee, who's gonna cut the grass?

Posted by Awesome!
a resident of Palo Alto High School
on Sep 13, 2007 at 5:16 pm

I'm glad to hear this! My parents are 15 years apart, and they're loving life! Whoever said this is a waste of research should go spend their time doing research.

Posted by janet
a resident of Crescent Park
on Sep 14, 2007 at 6:23 am

Who's older, Awesome, your Mom or your Dad?

Posted by Been there
a resident of South of Midtown
on Sep 14, 2007 at 7:42 am

The research referred to men older than assumption was that they then had children with women of good childbearing age, or much younger than 15 years 25 years younger, since the women would be no older than their early 30s.

That is the mistake I made..nearly destroying my life to be with someone 25 years younger... That is different from 10-15 years younger. 40 and 55 still have a bit more in common, though there is still a little disconnect..

Posted by hmm
a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Sep 14, 2007 at 1:32 pm

We have a single male friend, approaching 50, who has enjoyed life filling it with career, sport, travel and so on. He has had many girlfriends, at least one live in, and is now talking about finding the right woman to marry and start a family with.

Rather than this having anything to do with longevity, we think of it as immaturity and selfishness, although he is a really nice guy. He is obviously allowed his opinion and to do what he feels is right for his life, but it is interesting nonetheless that this may fit in with this research.

Posted by Clockwork apple
a resident of Southgate
on Sep 14, 2007 at 8:10 pm

Why OBVIOUSLY women are ticked off. Child bearing age for women is quite limited...

Tick tock... tick tock...

Posted by Been there
a resident of South of Midtown
on Sep 15, 2007 at 7:52 am

I can honestly say that my initial joy with my youthful lover was definitely a reflection of my immaturity and selfishness...and I still pay.

But, your friend may be just a late least he isn't destroying his children and wife in his quest to find a younger woman. Gotta give him credit for waiting until he was ready.

Posted by Steve
a resident of another community
on Sep 18, 2007 at 11:25 pm

Hi everyone, iam Steve age 55. I just married a girl from the Philippines. She is 18 years old and iam willing to do my part part to prolong life in the future. Anyway it goes I will be a much happier person.

Posted by Young Wife
a resident of another community
on Sep 19, 2007 at 8:30 am

My husband is 20 years older than me. We just had our first baby 5 months ago and are looking forward to more. We are happy, in love and enjoying each other everyday. To "been there" who claimed there were no common interests between you and your older spouse- that has nothing to do with age! If you marry someone your same age with different interest don't you think the same thing would happen? His age wasn't the problem, perhaps it was your immaturity.

Posted by Been there
a resident of Midtown
on Sep 19, 2007 at 2:40 pm

No, I am the older one..not the younger.

A lack of common history can not be overcome with a 25 year difference. The excitement of "being young" again is great for awhile, but reality does set in.

I wish you both the best of luck when he is 65 and ready to relax and retire and settle down a bit, looking old and weary and people keep mistaking him for your father...and you are ready to live the next, active chapter in your life, travel, go back to work, start a foundation, be gone a lot.. after your child moves on. You CAN do it, but it takes a LOT of understanding and acceptance of each of you being "not together a lot" and "not with the same goals". NOT being negative, just telling some reality of the future.

Nothing wrong with it at all. But it certainly not as easy as having similar age and being in a similar point in life, that is all.

Again, many good wishes and best of luck. It CAN work, just much more difficult.

Posted by sabawa
a resident of Los Altos Hills
on Sep 23, 2007 at 9:14 pm

So my ex married a woman 23 younger than he and 20 yrs younger than me......which, of course, made me feel old overnight. She didn't care about having kids at the time as he'd had a vasectomy. After she turned 33, she changed her mind. However, even with his reversal surgery, no kids are forthcoming. Does this happen often in those yw/om relationships?

Posted by Jeff
a resident of Fairmeadow
on Oct 2, 2007 at 12:20 am

The results of this research is just a great news to me. I just married a 15 years younger lady, we met at , where age gap relationships are celebrated and great many people are looking for age gap relationships there. This study results just increase my confidence for future marriage life.

Posted by curious
a resident of South of Midtown
on Oct 3, 2007 at 11:03 am

Just curious, honestly, ..what percentage of the group are younger men looking for older women?

Posted by Unknown
a resident of Los Altos Hills
on Oct 24, 2007 at 11:15 am

Am the young one--15 yrs younger than my boyfriend, we are happy but I'm not going to lie -- yes sometimes age difference can play a role in relationships, I have fallen in love, my partner and I have many things in common despite the age difference. It can work out but you have to be mature about it and understand each other's need, define what you are looking for and what you really want b/c the person at the other end who is older probably wants to settle down and you may not be ready to talk about marriage and kids.

Posted by Im not deaf
a resident of another community
on Oct 24, 2007 at 5:49 pm

I just read about viagra causing deafness. Not alot, but it happens. (so why are people laughing). Now we have a new excuse for not to listening to her.

Posted by help a friend
a resident of another community
on Nov 1, 2007 at 10:30 am

I was sent this by a friend and wondered how someone can get so screwed up and how to help this friend.
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I am totally and hopelessly in love with a 17 year old woman named Jill . I am 47, I am married with one child still in the home and two out of the home and have been married for the last going on 23 years to the same woman. This whole concepts blows my mind, Am I losing my mind? I have never loved someone like I love Jill . We met by chance and instantly fell head over heels in love. It is legal in this state for consensual sex at 17 but I want to wait before throwing my marriage out the window. She is not even an American Citizen she will be here for another 10 months then she goes back home.We spend time together almost every day and have for 6 months, there is no way in hell this relationship is going to work since she still has 11 years of School left when she gets home, The last thing I would ever do is hurt her in any way! I don't even think of her in a sexual way, I just am so in love with her and she told me she is totally in love with me.
I know that true love doesn't come everyday..what should I do? Walk away or let it build?

Posted by R. Don Steele
a resident of Old Palo Alto
on Nov 4, 2007 at 6:28 pm

I wrote the BIBLE on this topic in 1987. I am 67, Joanna is 33. Google her at you tube Joanna Bardot Lopez and R. Don Steele discuss the study. It's simple:

When men keep reproducing after age 55, natural selection fights life-shortening genetic mutations, passing that trait on. In other words men who are strong enough to find, meet, talk, date and reproduce with YOUNG women have the BEST genes for LONG LIFE. Women don't like this FACT of evolution. They believe what the Feminists told them, that they are the same as men! Silly girls!

Posted by Bob Dominguez
a resident of Old Palo Alto
on Dec 17, 2007 at 9:45 pm

Gee! I'm easy to get along with...I love to cook, clean house, stay in shape, walk,and pray daily...stay with nature, music, art, history and good reading. I'm a spirited person and attend church services every sunday. I love old movies and old music...espicially jazz! I am a retired educator, musician,businessman...I feel very virle and willing to share my lasting years with an energetic lady that plays golf, loves to cuddle and enjoy my cooking or a night out to dinner!!!

Posted by Ari
a resident of Barron Park
on Dec 18, 2007 at 1:11 am

And thus, the "Palo Alto Weekly "Matchmaker Service" is born ;)

Posted by dan proust
a resident of Green Acres
on Sep 19, 2009 at 6:04 am

so glad that these guys are doing what they want with life. Good luck though as most young ladies want to marry and date within 5 years of their own are.

Posted by Realio Dealio
a resident of Adobe-Meadow
on Nov 21, 2013 at 5:05 am

Holy cod, men are getting so incredibly desperate.

Posted by musical
a resident of Palo Verde
on Nov 21, 2013 at 9:38 am

Who is behind the recent trend here to stir up ancient threads?

Aren't there enough current events?

Perhaps auto-lock any topic that has no comment for 6 months.
If deemed relevant for further discussion at a later point in time, people could still resurrect the old stories by posting a new topic and include a hyperlink.

Posted by CrescentParkAnon.
a resident of Crescent Park
on Nov 21, 2013 at 9:57 am

Who cares if ancient threads are stirred up? ... and why lock them?

Not all of them are stale, boring and trivial like this one, but if someone makes the decision as to what is stale, boring and trivial in order to lock threads it will bother some people. If someone cares enough to go back and read this stuff and comment on it ... why complain. It's better than starting up a whole new thread, which they could do, right?

Posted by resident
a resident of Charleston Meadows
on Nov 21, 2013 at 12:44 pm

I worked for a very large company in which there were times when an older man with an existing family became involved with a younger woman. The man now had an older set of children - some in college and a baby that would go to college in about 18 years. So now their ability to retire was hampered by multiple children who would require expensive college tuition at greatly different time periods. These situations have a way of boomeranging - work on, never retire.

Posted by Jean
a resident of Midtown
on Nov 21, 2013 at 4:59 pm

Sugar daddies appear to be fairly popular on the Internet. Young women pretend to like sex with them and emotional love for the money, and the old guys are willing to pay a lot, even to pretend that they love the young women. Anything new?

Posted by yuk
a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Nov 22, 2013 at 12:35 am

it's sad and gross but it's true that some young women are ok with old guys with money, and now they're doing a service to society as well. thanks I guess

Posted by Observer
a resident of Old Palo Alto
on Nov 22, 2013 at 10:34 am

My great aunt married a wealthy man when she was eighteen and he was forty. After twenty years of marriage and one child, his health began to decline. Dementia set in when her husband was in his seventies, and he was confined to a wheelchair. She was still in her forties. The poor man lived until age 90 like this, but my great aunt insisted on taking care of him herself until he, in his dementia, became combative. At that point she had to put him in a nursing home.

After he died, many people asked my great aunt if she would ever consider marrying again, since she was still attractive and many older men were trying to court her. She replied that she had had enough of old men, and that she wanted a younger man to take care of her for a change! At that point, she was a wealthy, sixty-nine year old widow. She lived to be 94, and never remarried, just enjoyed life as a single woman for the first time in her adulthood!

Posted by MostSensible
a resident of Crescent Park
on Nov 22, 2013 at 11:07 am

I look around and it seems to me that everyone would be a lot happier if they had a place of their own to call home. They can "consort" with or marry whomever they want, but the security of having a place to be alone would make a happier world for all except those that seek to profit off another's poverty or dependency, because despite the ravings of these types they are the ones who cause the dependency of others, not the ones who solve it.

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