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'I didn't get to say goodbye': Graduating seniors grapple with unexpected ending to their high school careers

Many outgoing students say they have mostly come to terms with what they have no control over: a global pandemic

Liza Kolbasov has been stacking old homework assignments, tests and notes on a shelf in her closet since her freshman year in anticipation of throwing them into the air with her classmates on the last day of school, a treasured end-of-year tradition for Gunn High School seniors.

But with school closed, the paper toss won't be happening this year — nor the senior picnic, baccalaureate, awards night, yearbook signings and other rites of passage that students look forward to for much of their educational careers.

Some local high schools have decided to postpone the most significant of those celebrations, graduation, in the hopes they will be able to mark that milestone with seniors and their families in person later this year, while other schools are planning virtual commencements.

Schools and students are organizing socially distant replacements for events, including virtual awards nights and, in Palo Alto, a "shout out" in residential front yards for seniors on what would have been graduation night for the city's two public high schools.

In interviews, Midpeninsula seniors expressed disappointment at how the coronavirus has upended their final chapter of high school and all the traditions that come with it. But the most difficult pill to swallow, they said, is the lost time with friends and classmates. They left their campuses in March not knowing they wouldn't return.

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"The things I'm the most missing right now aren't actually the specific traditions but the fact I'm never going to see 95% of my class again," Kolbasov said. "I didn't get to say goodbye to them. I'm ... not getting to savor that last bit of time that we're supposed to have."

For Paula Sias of Mountain View High School, senior year represented the final chapter of her childhood. There were a lot of tearful FaceTime sessions with friends when they found out they wouldn't be able to celebrate that time together, in person.

"Senior year is supposed to be the best year of high school. We go through 12-plus years of schooling awaiting that final year and all the fun things it entails," she said. "Senior year is the last year you get to spend with your friends ... those everlasting memories of our childhood that we get to carry on with us throughout our life."

A member of the track team, Sias had long pictured herself walking down the track field on senior night and proudly announcing where she's going to college (the University of Hawaii at Manoa, where she plans to study education). She also was looking forward to a senior trip to the Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk.

One anticipated time with friends — prom night — has already come and gone.

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Mountain View High School senior Jonathan Liu said he had an elaborate "promposal" planned — including an original song — before the pandemic struck. He was looking forward to prom as well as graduation.

"These are the events that I feel are the heart of the high school experience, events that everybody remembers long after they have graduated. Not having these once-in-a-lifetime experiences is a real bummer since I can't help wondering 'What if?'" he said.

Menlo-Atherton's student activities director and student leaders floated the idea of a virtual prom to students, but it wasn't a popular one, Menlo-Atherton Principal Simone Rick-Kennel said. Administrators hope to gather the class of 2020 for a prom or celebration in the future.

Some seniors decided to don their already purchased prom outfits and take socially distant photos, or they got together over Zoom on what would have been prom night. For students who couldn't attend prom in their junior year or planned to only go senior year because of the expense, the cancellation of this event was particularly disappointing.

Seniors also have had to forego other end-of-year competitions and events. Liu has acted in every play and musical the school has put on and to not bring that experience to a close was "disheartening." Gunn theater students found out their final production was canceled the same day it was set to take place. Others are missing their final debate tournaments, robotics competitions or athletic events.

Paly students and administrators have planned a series of remote celebrations for what would have been the last week of school, including a virtual paper toss held on Zoom and organizing times to say online goodbyes to teachers and staff. On June 3, for the citywide "shout out," they're asking people across Palo Alto to decorate their front yards and go outside at 5:30 p.m. to shout congratulations for the Class of 2020.

Frida Rivera, Paly's senior class president, has been involved in the planning of these events. She acknowledged none of them are adequate replacements for what seniors expected to have in person but said they're the "best possible outcome."

Staff at the Madrono, Paly's yearbook, don't yet know how or when the yearbook they've been working on for months will be safely distributed, but they've been adjusting its pages to reflect an unprecedented moment in history. A timeline with local and global events now includes dates of when schools closed and major events related to the coronavirus.

Instead of the usual photos of students together for the "senior superlatives" feature, which honors pairs of seniors in categories like "most likely to become president" and "most likely to be late to graduation," the yearbook staff is creating drawings of the winners. Clubs that hadn't yet submitted photos have sent in group Zoom screenshots.

Students at Palo Alto, Mountain View and Los Altos high schools also have used Instagram to highlight seniors' post-high school plans. Rivera said some students responded to Paly's Instagram feature in unexpected ways that she appreciated: One senior said his post-high school plans were simply to "be awesome." Another one? "Write a novel."

Celebrating post-high school plans amid a cloud of uncertainty

The next chapter for many high school seniors — college — is still hanging in the balance as colleges and universities across the country figure out what school will look like in the fall. The University of California has indicated it could reopen just one-third to one-half of dorm rooms. Other colleges are planning for hybrid models with a mix of virtual and in-person instruction.

It's top of mind for all seniors.

"There are two topics you can talk about right now: college and coronavirus," Kolbasov joked.

Many seniors received news about their college admissions during the shelter in place. Some said it was a relief not to be surrounded by peers talking about their acceptances on campus and nervously monitoring their inboxes for news during class.

Kolbasov is planning to attend Brown University in Rhode Island to study English and psychology. Brown was her first choice, but she seriously considered attending a California school instead because of the uncertainty around travel due to the virus. She said some friends are considering taking gap years for this reason.

"I think almost everybody thought about the impact of this on their college decision," she said. "Ultimately I decided the rest of college, being where I've wanted to go for so long, is worth it. I don't want to regret closing that opportunity once we are hopefully on campus."

Sias said she's considering going to Foothill College in Los Altos Hills for her freshman year if she can't attend college in person — for her, the cost of full tuition for online classes wouldn't be worth it.

Hanna Suh, a Gunn High School senior, has been nervously monitoring the coronavirus case count in New York City, where she plans to attend New York University in the fall.

"I've gotten into this new routine of getting up in the morning, picking up The New York Times and seeing their daily coronavirus stats out of anxiety of whether I can go to college in the fall," she said.

Graduating without the usual pomp or circumstance

With the end of the school year fast approaching, most high schools have wrestled with the agonizing decision of what to do with commencement and landed on a plan, either to move it online or reschedule it months from now.

Many local seniors overwhelmingly opposed a virtual graduation, which some said would be "anti-climatic" and even "sad."

Palo Alto High School senior Ben Knopper said he's glad his school district postponed graduation until December.

"It gives us a chance to celebrate, to meet back up and say goodbye one more time," he said. "I'm hoping it acts more as a six-month reunion."

The Mountain View Los Altos High School District is also hoping to schedule an in-person graduation later this year. Los Altos High School has postponed prom until Aug. 7, with a backup date set for Nov. 25.

Menlo-Atherton plans to livestream a virtual commencement ceremony on June 4 at 4 p.m. Students can also still order caps and gowns, and some have talked about walking down the street in their caps and gowns together. At the end of the ceremony, once students are pronounced graduates, the school is asking them and their families to go outside and cheer loudly to honor the seniors (following all social distancing guidelines).

Kylie Wong, a Menlo-Atherton senior who plans to attend the University of Oregon in the fall, said that while disappointed not to have an in-person ceremony, "I know that the school's administration is doing its best with the current conditions."

She noted that a unique, longstanding tradition at M-A will be lost this year: Seniors choose a teacher or staff member who was important to them to present them with their diploma.

"During the first (fall) semester, there was consideration to remove this process, but students rallied together to keep this special aspect of graduation," she wrote in an email. "Ironically, the current situation unraveled graduation plans including the teacher-diploma component."

The school will keep the possibility of an in-person ceremony open depending on when the school can safely gather large crowds again, M-A principal Rick-Kennel said.

"Send positive messaging to seniors," Rick-Kennel said in a communication to students. "They have a sense of loss and we need to be their cheerleaders. What will help is acknowledging this with positivity and support."

Woodside High School's virtual ceremony will include a pre-recorded rendition of pomp and circumstance; student and principal speeches; announcing each student's name as their pre-loaded photo in orange cap and gown with their quote appear; and ending with the traditional turning of the tassel. These pre-recorded segments will be streamed live at 10 a.m. on June 5.

Woodside students will be able to access the video online later for their own at-home celebrations. School administrators are also committed to doing an in-person event when, or if, restrictions allow even if it's in the fall, Principal Diane Burbank said.

Alison Murchek, a senior at the alternative Middle College program who would have also attended graduation at her home school, Los Altos High School, said being a senior during the shutdown feels "surreal."

"Due to the fact that we might not have a graduation, it kind of makes me feel like I went through all of these years of school for nothing. This may seem dramatic, but in American culture your high school graduation is such a romanticized moment," she said.

Despite the disappointment and anxieties about what's ahead, seniors said they have mostly come to terms with what they have no control over — a global pandemic — and are focusing on staying positive.

Suh, the Gunn senior, still plans to decorate her graduation cap regardless of when she'll be able to toss it in the air, surrounded by her classmates.

"I think there's a new sense that we're persevering through this together," she said.

Embarcadero Media staff writers Angela Swartz and Kate Bradshaw contributed to this article.

Find comprehensive coverage of the Midpeninsula's response to the new coronavirus by Palo Alto Online, the Mountain View Voice and the Almanac here.

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'I didn't get to say goodbye': Graduating seniors grapple with unexpected ending to their high school careers

Many outgoing students say they have mostly come to terms with what they have no control over: a global pandemic

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Liza Kolbasov has been stacking old homework assignments, tests and notes on a shelf in her closet since her freshman year in anticipation of throwing them into the air with her classmates on the last day of school, a treasured end-of-year tradition for Gunn High School seniors.

But with school closed, the paper toss won't be happening this year — nor the senior picnic, baccalaureate, awards night, yearbook signings and other rites of passage that students look forward to for much of their educational careers.

Some local high schools have decided to postpone the most significant of those celebrations, graduation, in the hopes they will be able to mark that milestone with seniors and their families in person later this year, while other schools are planning virtual commencements.

Schools and students are organizing socially distant replacements for events, including virtual awards nights and, in Palo Alto, a "shout out" in residential front yards for seniors on what would have been graduation night for the city's two public high schools.

In interviews, Midpeninsula seniors expressed disappointment at how the coronavirus has upended their final chapter of high school and all the traditions that come with it. But the most difficult pill to swallow, they said, is the lost time with friends and classmates. They left their campuses in March not knowing they wouldn't return.

"The things I'm the most missing right now aren't actually the specific traditions but the fact I'm never going to see 95% of my class again," Kolbasov said. "I didn't get to say goodbye to them. I'm ... not getting to savor that last bit of time that we're supposed to have."

For Paula Sias of Mountain View High School, senior year represented the final chapter of her childhood. There were a lot of tearful FaceTime sessions with friends when they found out they wouldn't be able to celebrate that time together, in person.

"Senior year is supposed to be the best year of high school. We go through 12-plus years of schooling awaiting that final year and all the fun things it entails," she said. "Senior year is the last year you get to spend with your friends ... those everlasting memories of our childhood that we get to carry on with us throughout our life."

A member of the track team, Sias had long pictured herself walking down the track field on senior night and proudly announcing where she's going to college (the University of Hawaii at Manoa, where she plans to study education). She also was looking forward to a senior trip to the Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk.

One anticipated time with friends — prom night — has already come and gone.

Mountain View High School senior Jonathan Liu said he had an elaborate "promposal" planned — including an original song — before the pandemic struck. He was looking forward to prom as well as graduation.

"These are the events that I feel are the heart of the high school experience, events that everybody remembers long after they have graduated. Not having these once-in-a-lifetime experiences is a real bummer since I can't help wondering 'What if?'" he said.

Menlo-Atherton's student activities director and student leaders floated the idea of a virtual prom to students, but it wasn't a popular one, Menlo-Atherton Principal Simone Rick-Kennel said. Administrators hope to gather the class of 2020 for a prom or celebration in the future.

Some seniors decided to don their already purchased prom outfits and take socially distant photos, or they got together over Zoom on what would have been prom night. For students who couldn't attend prom in their junior year or planned to only go senior year because of the expense, the cancellation of this event was particularly disappointing.

Seniors also have had to forego other end-of-year competitions and events. Liu has acted in every play and musical the school has put on and to not bring that experience to a close was "disheartening." Gunn theater students found out their final production was canceled the same day it was set to take place. Others are missing their final debate tournaments, robotics competitions or athletic events.

Paly students and administrators have planned a series of remote celebrations for what would have been the last week of school, including a virtual paper toss held on Zoom and organizing times to say online goodbyes to teachers and staff. On June 3, for the citywide "shout out," they're asking people across Palo Alto to decorate their front yards and go outside at 5:30 p.m. to shout congratulations for the Class of 2020.

Frida Rivera, Paly's senior class president, has been involved in the planning of these events. She acknowledged none of them are adequate replacements for what seniors expected to have in person but said they're the "best possible outcome."

Staff at the Madrono, Paly's yearbook, don't yet know how or when the yearbook they've been working on for months will be safely distributed, but they've been adjusting its pages to reflect an unprecedented moment in history. A timeline with local and global events now includes dates of when schools closed and major events related to the coronavirus.

Instead of the usual photos of students together for the "senior superlatives" feature, which honors pairs of seniors in categories like "most likely to become president" and "most likely to be late to graduation," the yearbook staff is creating drawings of the winners. Clubs that hadn't yet submitted photos have sent in group Zoom screenshots.

Students at Palo Alto, Mountain View and Los Altos high schools also have used Instagram to highlight seniors' post-high school plans. Rivera said some students responded to Paly's Instagram feature in unexpected ways that she appreciated: One senior said his post-high school plans were simply to "be awesome." Another one? "Write a novel."

Celebrating post-high school plans amid a cloud of uncertainty

The next chapter for many high school seniors — college — is still hanging in the balance as colleges and universities across the country figure out what school will look like in the fall. The University of California has indicated it could reopen just one-third to one-half of dorm rooms. Other colleges are planning for hybrid models with a mix of virtual and in-person instruction.

It's top of mind for all seniors.

"There are two topics you can talk about right now: college and coronavirus," Kolbasov joked.

Many seniors received news about their college admissions during the shelter in place. Some said it was a relief not to be surrounded by peers talking about their acceptances on campus and nervously monitoring their inboxes for news during class.

Kolbasov is planning to attend Brown University in Rhode Island to study English and psychology. Brown was her first choice, but she seriously considered attending a California school instead because of the uncertainty around travel due to the virus. She said some friends are considering taking gap years for this reason.

"I think almost everybody thought about the impact of this on their college decision," she said. "Ultimately I decided the rest of college, being where I've wanted to go for so long, is worth it. I don't want to regret closing that opportunity once we are hopefully on campus."

Sias said she's considering going to Foothill College in Los Altos Hills for her freshman year if she can't attend college in person — for her, the cost of full tuition for online classes wouldn't be worth it.

Hanna Suh, a Gunn High School senior, has been nervously monitoring the coronavirus case count in New York City, where she plans to attend New York University in the fall.

"I've gotten into this new routine of getting up in the morning, picking up The New York Times and seeing their daily coronavirus stats out of anxiety of whether I can go to college in the fall," she said.

Graduating without the usual pomp or circumstance

With the end of the school year fast approaching, most high schools have wrestled with the agonizing decision of what to do with commencement and landed on a plan, either to move it online or reschedule it months from now.

Many local seniors overwhelmingly opposed a virtual graduation, which some said would be "anti-climatic" and even "sad."

Palo Alto High School senior Ben Knopper said he's glad his school district postponed graduation until December.

"It gives us a chance to celebrate, to meet back up and say goodbye one more time," he said. "I'm hoping it acts more as a six-month reunion."

The Mountain View Los Altos High School District is also hoping to schedule an in-person graduation later this year. Los Altos High School has postponed prom until Aug. 7, with a backup date set for Nov. 25.

Menlo-Atherton plans to livestream a virtual commencement ceremony on June 4 at 4 p.m. Students can also still order caps and gowns, and some have talked about walking down the street in their caps and gowns together. At the end of the ceremony, once students are pronounced graduates, the school is asking them and their families to go outside and cheer loudly to honor the seniors (following all social distancing guidelines).

Kylie Wong, a Menlo-Atherton senior who plans to attend the University of Oregon in the fall, said that while disappointed not to have an in-person ceremony, "I know that the school's administration is doing its best with the current conditions."

She noted that a unique, longstanding tradition at M-A will be lost this year: Seniors choose a teacher or staff member who was important to them to present them with their diploma.

"During the first (fall) semester, there was consideration to remove this process, but students rallied together to keep this special aspect of graduation," she wrote in an email. "Ironically, the current situation unraveled graduation plans including the teacher-diploma component."

The school will keep the possibility of an in-person ceremony open depending on when the school can safely gather large crowds again, M-A principal Rick-Kennel said.

"Send positive messaging to seniors," Rick-Kennel said in a communication to students. "They have a sense of loss and we need to be their cheerleaders. What will help is acknowledging this with positivity and support."

Woodside High School's virtual ceremony will include a pre-recorded rendition of pomp and circumstance; student and principal speeches; announcing each student's name as their pre-loaded photo in orange cap and gown with their quote appear; and ending with the traditional turning of the tassel. These pre-recorded segments will be streamed live at 10 a.m. on June 5.

Woodside students will be able to access the video online later for their own at-home celebrations. School administrators are also committed to doing an in-person event when, or if, restrictions allow even if it's in the fall, Principal Diane Burbank said.

Alison Murchek, a senior at the alternative Middle College program who would have also attended graduation at her home school, Los Altos High School, said being a senior during the shutdown feels "surreal."

"Due to the fact that we might not have a graduation, it kind of makes me feel like I went through all of these years of school for nothing. This may seem dramatic, but in American culture your high school graduation is such a romanticized moment," she said.

Despite the disappointment and anxieties about what's ahead, seniors said they have mostly come to terms with what they have no control over — a global pandemic — and are focusing on staying positive.

Suh, the Gunn senior, still plans to decorate her graduation cap regardless of when she'll be able to toss it in the air, surrounded by her classmates.

"I think there's a new sense that we're persevering through this together," she said.

Embarcadero Media staff writers Angela Swartz and Kate Bradshaw contributed to this article.

Find comprehensive coverage of the Midpeninsula's response to the new coronavirus by Palo Alto Online, the Mountain View Voice and the Almanac here.

Comments

What Will They Do Next
Old Palo Alto
on May 8, 2020 at 12:05 pm
What Will They Do Next, Old Palo Alto
on May 8, 2020 at 12:05 pm

This is indeed unfortunate, however life does go on and the important thing is that you have your health.


Elizabeth
Downtown North
on May 8, 2020 at 5:10 pm
Elizabeth , Downtown North
on May 8, 2020 at 5:10 pm

>>> Sias said she's considering going to Foothill College in Los Altos Hills for her freshman year if she can't attend college in person — for her, the cost of full tuition for online classes wouldn't be worth it.

I wonder if a lot of colleges will reopen in the fall just for that reason, so they don't lose their entering class. If students wanted remote learning, they wouldn't pay a premium for the Ivy League experience.


Embrace the imperfections
Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on May 8, 2020 at 5:36 pm
Embrace the imperfections, Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on May 8, 2020 at 5:36 pm

@What,
The difference between the (reasonable) expectation and what happens is going to lead to experiences of loss. The students are dealing not just with the loss of what are considered perks of high school, delayed, but also the uncertainties of what's to come, including employment after college, which is the harder part.

These kids have had to make decisions about where to go to college, many of them, without ever visiting, without being able to learn what they need to about the schools because they are locked down on the other end, too. Most don't know what college will look like in the fall and whether they will have that important freshman year that sets them up to do well thereafter. They can't know that what has happened to their records won't go on to hurt them in the future despite all the reassurances. Realistically, people have a short memory for compassion in these circumstances that is usually for shorter than the need.

I do agree with you that life goes on. Anyone who's gone on to college remembers how those high school rites of passage seem like such a big deal at the time, yet for most people those friendships fade away for stronger friendships in college, and those experiences often develop an embarrassing juvenile tinge in hindsight. But you're not going to make a single one feel better by telling them that. I think the majority of kids in this town are thoughtful, intelligent, and the best way to help them cope is to give them opportunities to make a difference in the world because of the time and altered focus.

Many of my friends and I talk about how higher education in this country does such a poor job of preparing people to make a living, especially a living from their passions, especially in a changing world. People assume, often wrongly, that if you are passionate about something, it will all just work out. What happened just now could give those students a completely different view of how to conduct their educations in the next four to ten years, how to be in a positive way in the world, and how to make change that has been needed for far too long. What if these kids decided to use their time to get a really high percentage of young people to vote in the next election, to understand the issues of balance of power and how their sustained involvement could change everything? Which are they going to remember, prom, or the feeling of power from shepherding in healthcare for all or free higher education, or just changing the voting habits of their generation so they are no longer ignored? This spring gave them a pass to use their time the way they choose. And maybe it's an opportunity to choose something they wouldn't have had time for amidst the celebrations.

I do think the best way to cope with the loss is to find ways to somehow make this a more meaningful experience than otherwise, even in its imperfections and difficulties. It can be very difficult to maintain ties with high school friends when young people move on -- maybe this event will help students solidify those bonds so they retain and build those friendships later because of this shared experience.

In life, lots of things will go wrong, not as we planned. Life is what happens while we're making other plans. Many of these kids would go on into their lives after graduation, and those things that seem so important now would fade almost to nothing or even seem trite. But graduating during the pandemic, and entering college under this shroud of uncertainty, the ways these kids make the best of it will not only help them appreciate what's important, they could lead to more positive and stronger memories for the rest of their lives. And at the least, it makes for better conversation at parties.

When I got married, to make a long story short, it was pouring rain, and my dad thoughtfully had a large umbrella to walk me to the church door. It got caught in the branches of an evergreen tree of some kind, and he said, wait! And as he yanked it free, all the water in the needles of the tree cascaded down the front of my face and my dress. It was actually not the worst thing to go wrong that day. The rest of that story is a memory I will cherish the rest of my life. Who needs everything to go right if you focus on what's important?

So I say to the students: Embrace life's imperfections. Really, seriously. Necessity is the mother of invention because people who don't need anything will never be motivated or as smart about an issue as people who go through a problem and have to fix it. We feel for you and what you lost, but we're excited for what you will do and be in the world. Embrace you families, some of you will go off to college and look back with gratitude for the time you had with siblings or your parents and grandparents, that you never had while you were studying so hard for school.

Embrace the need to take time and effort to maintain and nurture your friendships when you don't just have school making it easy for you to see friends every day. Embrace being able to experience the loss of something you were looking forward to and not only being okay with it, finding memories of meaning you cherish even more. When you graduate from college and get out on your own, you'll know what I mean.

The times to come in our world may be very hard, and they don't have to be, and it could depend all on your generation.

Hugs to you all. We in the community are proud of you.


Embrace the imperfections
Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on May 8, 2020 at 5:44 pm
Embrace the imperfections, Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on May 8, 2020 at 5:44 pm

"Despite the disappointment and anxieties about what's ahead, seniors said they have mostly come to terms with what they have no control over — a global pandemic — and are focusing on staying positive.

Suh, the Gunn senior, still plans to decorate her graduation cap regardless of when she'll be able to toss it in the air, surrounded by her classmates.

"I think there's a new sense that we're persevering through this together," she said. "


:-)


Staying Connected
Adobe-Meadow
on May 9, 2020 at 9:20 am
Staying Connected, Adobe-Meadow
on May 9, 2020 at 9:20 am

Since many/most adolescents are seemingly tied to their smartphones 24/7, saying 'goodbye' shouldn't pose that much of a problem.

In fact, some (including adults) use texting & email to 'break up' so it is difficult to perceive this as much of a problem/issue.

Perhaps there's even an 'APP' for this purpose.


AMRW
another community
on May 9, 2020 at 8:55 pm
AMRW, another community
on May 9, 2020 at 8:55 pm

This is clearly going to be very difficult for high school seniors. They've spent a long time working for, and looking forwards to, these senior year traditions. But, in the long run, I think they will learn a lot from this unprecedented, historic, and incredibly difficult time in our shared history. They will be resilient and they will grow from this awful experience. That is my hope, anyway.
But, they do need the time and space to grieve the loss of these important, formative school experiences.


David
Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on May 11, 2020 at 9:55 am
David, Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on May 11, 2020 at 9:55 am

Many kids in school are not really your friends and don’t give a crap about you. Your real friends will maintain friendships beyond school and stay a part of your life.


People
Crescent Park
on May 12, 2020 at 9:10 am
People, Crescent Park
on May 12, 2020 at 9:10 am

> "Many kids in school are not really your friends and don’t give a crap about you."

^^^How true...the same can be said of various adult 'acquaintances' and family members.

Most of us reside in a very shallow world and "People who need people" as the old Barbra Streisand song goes, ARE NOT "the luckiest people in the world" but rather needy & insecure individuals.

It doesn't take a shrink to figure that one out...being your own best friend is usually the safest bet.


musical
Palo Verde
on May 12, 2020 at 9:14 am
musical, Palo Verde
on May 12, 2020 at 9:14 am

Time to start planning my 50th. Hope lockdown is lifted before 2022.


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