By Chandrama Anderson
Miscarriage, Grieving and AdviceUploaded: May 13, 2014
I read a beautiful piece you wrote sharing your experience with pregnancy loss. I too have one lovely son, but suffered four miscarriages within the last year and a half. I'm in therapy but suspect I need something more specific to the experience. I can't find anything in my area. Do you have any specific online groups or listings for in person groups you can recommend? Maybe I'll find something that way.
Thank you for writing to me. I am so sorry to hear of the many losses you have suffered in the last 18 months. My heart goes out to you. So much hope, broken dreams, loss of the future . . .
Ask your therapist or OB-GYN if they know of any local, in-person groups. Two online support groups I know well are Open to Hope and The Compassionate Friends. The latter has local chapters in many areas. Also, you may want to read my book, No U-Turn at Mercy Street: A Memoir and Resource Guide for Grieving Parents.
Other online support is available through these organizations (I don't personally have any experience with them):
Please know that whatever you are feeling and experiencing is normal for grieving miscarriage.
To help educate those around you about grief, and have a list of things to say and not to say, check out The Language of Grieving (it's free, pass it along).
I wish you and your family all my best through this most difficult journey you never wanted to be on.