- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
We’ve all been reminded of this in the aftermath of the shootings and deaths in Half Moon Bay. We grieve for our community, and the families and friends of those who died. Consider getting involved with gun control efforts. No one needs automatic weapons in daily life.
Hug each other close, make eye contact and say, “I love you.” Do it every day. Don’t wait to have conversations with people who matter to you. Call now. Say what you want and need to say. Listen. Love.
We are a death-averse and grief-averse culture. This actually hurts us. When we don’t talk about the people who have died, we are erasing them. That’s painful for those left behind. Ask a grieving friend or family member to tell you a story about the loved one who has died. It’s a relief to be able to talk about him/her.
So what if you cry and grieve? Or don’t cry, and grieve in your own way. These are normal human emotions. People are often afraid to cry because they worry they won’t be able to stop crying. You will stop eventually. It’s okay to express your grief. In fact it’s healthy.
Living to the fullest doesn’t mean “Screw it” to all your responsibilities (if it’s your preference to say screw it to everything, take a long, hard look at your life and decide what you need to change). It means being present: as Ram Dass said, “Be here now.” The people in your life will not always be here. Focus on where you are, who you are with, what you’re doing in this moment, and be all in. This is a lifelong practice. You won’t be good at it right away. I ask myself: “Where am I in this moment?” as a way of being here now.
Balance your dreams, hopes and desires with your responsibilities.