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Couples: Say Nice Things Behind Your Partner’s Back

Uploaded: Jun 1, 2018
Saying nice things about your beloved behind his/her back is another way of putting positive energy into your relationship. You can even tell her you did so, and what you said.

Last week my husband sang in a choral group at Carnegie Hall.

This is where using the word amazing actually fits; this was definitely a peak experience.

My husband looked so handsome in his tux, and he was beaming with happiness. I could hear his voice now and again through the many voices and instruments of the orchestra. The music was incredible; I was mesmerized by the whole experience. My favorite piece was Te Deum by Allan Petker.

I was sitting in a box seat right near the stage so I had a great view of the choir, the instrumentalists, and conductors, but I was riveted watching my husband sing at Carnegie Hall. Surrounded by my three brothers-in-law, sister-in-law, surviving wife and her daughter of my husband’s dad, I could also see my last brother-in-law in the audience. It was a huge deal to have everyone travel to New York for the concert-to listen and support my husband.

Afterwards we went out into the 90 degree humid day and took the subway back to one of the brothers’ homes in Brooklyn for a celebration. And it was! More great company (sister-in-law, nieces and nephews and step-mom), a huge spread of food, and a view of the Manhattan skyline . . .

Everyone talked and laughed into the night. Once it cooled down we went out on the balcony to see the nearly full moon and the lights twinkle across the river.

I loved seeing my husband so happy. I took care of the logistics of our trip and invited everyone. He did all the rest. I’m so proud of him.

Allan Petker leads three choral groups in Southern California and one in San Anselmo: Consort Chorale in which my husband sings (25th Anniversary Concert "Jubilee Celebration" Sunday, August 19, 2018 - 7 p.m. in case you’re interested).

Go say nice things about your spouse behind his/her back and tell him/her what you said.
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Posted by ElaineB, a resident of Duveneck/St. Francis,
on Jun 1, 2018 at 2:26 pm

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Wonderful. Your account of the concert leaves me with a big smile.


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Posted by JLN, a resident of Charleston Meadows,
on Jun 7, 2018 at 1:02 pm

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You're setting a good example for all of us!


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