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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ...  (More)

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Legacy

Uploaded: Sep 14, 2017
Last Friday I wrote the following: None of us know how long we have in this life with the people we love. Be sure you tell them you love them—regularly. Get out and do what matters to you and makes you happy. And figure out where you can make a difference and go for it.

Later that evening my husband and I found out that one of our dear friends had a stroke at 70 and died immediately. Wow. We’re sad that we’ll never talk to him again, hear his voice, or laugh together. We feel sad for his wife and daughter who are bereft.

Death comes when it comes. What legacy do you want to leave behind? Do you want to be remembered as a kind soul who loved and cared for others? Do you want to be remembered for your prowess at work or in business? A good husband or wife? A good mother or father? A good friend?

If you want to remembered in positive ways but are leaving a trail of angst or discontent behind you—wake up! Take action today to begin changing your legacy.

I was invited to present Connect2 Personality Mapping at a wonderful group this week: Palo Alto Self Improvement Meetup. The people who came were in every age group, every ethnicity; all for one purpose. They were seeking personal transformation.

Because of the brain’s plasticity you can change and grow until the day you die. It’s a choice. It’s your choice.

Think carefully and pay attention to your heart and gut: what legacy do you want to leave behind? Get on with it—today. Even if you’re not sure of the answer, take baby steps in that direction.

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