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About this blog: I developed a special interest in helping seniors with their challenges and transitions when my dad had a stroke and I helped him through all the various stages of downsizing, packing, moving and finding an assisted living communi... (More)
About this blog: I developed a special interest in helping seniors with their challenges and transitions when my dad had a stroke and I helped him through all the various stages of downsizing, packing, moving and finding an assisted living community. I live in Palo Alto with my wife and we have three grown children, one still in college. I have been in the Bay Area since 1977 (except for seven years in Newton MA — just missed all that snow too much.) I've worked in sales and marketing in retirement communities for seven years, and have hired and managed home care workers for family members, and have a pretty good idea of how aging in place, or shopping for and selecting the right retirement community works. I now run my own business, Palo Alto Senior Living, providing real estate and senior transition services. This blog is designed to share my experiences, insight and knowledge with seniors and their baby boomer kids and provide useful information to help develop a roadmap for smooth transitions or aging in place. I welcome readers to share their experiences, both good and not-so-good, in the hope that we all can benefit from each other. (Hide)
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It's Never Too Early or Too Late to Find the Perfect Mate...
Uploaded: Jul 8, 2015
...Unless you're already married: best to work with what you've got.
I recently came upon such a simple method for finding the perfect mate that I couldn't keep it to myself (I've already shared it with my 3 kids who are not hitched as of yet).
Make as extensive a list as you can of all the wonderful attributes you dream of finding in one person. Now go through that list and check off those attributes you desire in your perfect mate that you have not quite perfected in yourself up until now. Then go ahead and work on this sub-list. When you're done you won't have to worry about finding this perfect person: that person will find you. After all, you'll have everything they desire in their perfect mate. You can't expect your perfect mate to be attracted to someone who doesn't already have the traits they are looking for.
I first heard of this approach in Darren Hardy's book "The Compound Effect", a must-read in my opinion dealing with the positive (and potentially negative) effects of habits. Darren claims to have compiled a 40 page list of the attributes he was seeking in the perfect mate, which he claims to have found. I would think most folks would take up a page or two.
Now, for those of us already in a committed relationship, whereas we may have missed the opportunity to find the perfect mate, might I suggest we still make the list and start working on ourselves as we strive for self-improvement. If nothing else, we may turn ourselves into a perfect person, or at least a much-improved version of ourselves. This alone I'm sure will elicit some positive responses from our "imperfect" mate that is sure to improve the relationship. I'm getting ready to make my list - I'll let you know how it goes. I'd love to hear how it went for you...
What is it worth to you?
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