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Why Most New Year's Resolutions Die an Early Death
Uploaded: Dec 30, 2014
January 1st. The "BIG" day. It's just about here. And the New Year's resolutions are flying off the shelves. Lose weight, work out, eat right, work harder, make more money, stop cheating, be nicer, give more to charity. The list goes on. The main reason I believe that most of these resolutions don't have a lot of staying power is because they come from a place of "I have to" rather than "I want to." Think about how well you do something that you want to do rather than something you have to do. If we can make the simple mental adjustment from the "have to" to the "want to", then virtually any task can be done better, quicker and more enjoyably. Take getting fit: If your resolution is to start going to the gym and eating better because I'm getting fat and saggy, then your mind is looking at that as an unwelcome chore, and you'll be way over that resolution by end of January. But just picture the results and wonderful benefits that will come from exercising and eating right: you're looking slim, have so much more energy, feeling stronger, not putting processed foods and sugars into your body. You'll live healthier and longer, be able to enjoy your kids and grandkids as a healthy person. Just make the list of the benefits, and imagine them as if they have already happened. See how that feels. Visualize it before it's occurred. That's all the encouragement you'll need to follow through on that resolution of something you "want to" rather than "have to" do. It really is that simple for most folks.
Now regarding something like losing weight and eating right, for those of us who are compulsive eaters/sugar addicts and need to change their entire relationship with food, a simple mind-shift may not do the trick. A support group may be what is needed and may involve a multi-step process. Luckily such groups do exist. Happy New Year!
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