By Cheryl Bac
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About this blog: I'm a wife, stay-at-home mom, home cook, marathon runner, and PhD. I recently moved to the Silicon Valley after completing my PhD in Social Psychology and becoming a mother one month apart. Before that, I ran seven marathons incl...
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About this blog: I'm a wife, stay-at-home mom, home cook, marathon runner, and PhD. I recently moved to the Silicon Valley after completing my PhD in Social Psychology and becoming a mother one month apart. Before that, I ran seven marathons including Chicago and Boston. Exercise is an integral part of my life. I hope to one day go back to long distance running and tackle the New York City Marathon. Right now I run after my one year old son. Although I am a stay-at-home mom, we are rarely "at home." My mom also stayed at home with my brother and me. She warned me that, although rewarding, it can be isolating. So, with her help, I learned the importance of getting out into the community and meeting other mothers. On the rare occasion when I am at home and have a hand or two free, I squeeze in time to scrapbook. As a new mom, many challenges are thrown my way. I hope my opinions, triumphs, and struggles help experienced parents reminisce, new parents cope, and parents-to-be get an honest glimpse of what the first years of motherhood can entail.
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When my husband is at work, my son is almost always by my side. He joins me when I buy groceries or run other errands. He comes with me to interview doulas or go to quick doctor appointments. When I recently took my glucose tolerance test (a test that requires staying in the waiting room for an hour before getting your blood drawn), my son came along. He flipped through magazines (looking for cars, trucks and planes) while we were in the waiting room. And then sat in his stroller with popcorn and a movie while I got my blood drawn.
Of course, there are occasions when toddlers are not welcome- dental appointments, massages, etc. And for these times I get childcare. But, when possible, I choose to bring my son with me because it is typically more enjoyable for me and I think he actually gets something out of the experience.
During these outings he is learning how to be a part of a community - a community not focused on him (unlike a playgroup or a music class). He's learning that it is fun to say "hi" and "bye-bye" to the nurses, cashiers, waiters, and doulas that we interact with. That he must wait while mommy fills out paperwork, talks with her doctor, stands in line or gets her blood pressure taken. And that there are times when he must find his own way to entertain himself (a skill that will be important when baby #2 arrives).
Personally, I choose to take my son on these outings because it's fun to see the world through a toddler's eyes. He says "hi" to a biker waiting at a stop sign and eagerly waits for a reply. Or stares awestruck at a construction site across the street. He also points out things I wouldn't have taken notice of - the firetruck in the parking lot, a dog and its owner playing frisbee or the stadium on the cover of a magazine.
Do you bring your kids with you when running errands? If so, do you think they benefit from the experience?