By Jessica T
About this blog: I'm a late thirties mother of a ten-year-old and infant twins. My family moved to Menlo Park 6 years ago from Virginia - where I grew up, went to college, got married, had my first born, and got an MBA (in that order). I'm a manag... (More)
About this blog: I'm a late thirties mother of a ten-year-old and infant twins. My family moved to Menlo Park 6 years ago from Virginia - where I grew up, went to college, got married, had my first born, and got an MBA (in that order). I'm a manager at Google, Inc. (Please note: The views expressed in this blog are my personal views and not those of Google.) My husband grew up in Los Angeles and is a novelist and professor at San Jose State University. Our daughter attends the Menlo Park public schools, and I was a member of the Menlo Park-Atherton Education Foundation board for three years. I am now a board member for the Center for Literary Arts at SJSU. I struggled with secondary infertility for five years and recently conceived and delivered fraternal twins - a healthy baby girl and boy in May 2013. I've worked (and pursued my graduate degree) since my elder daughter was twelve weeks old. I supported my husband throughout his graduate education, and now I'm the primary breadwinner for our family. I have coped with the pressures and angst of what that means for many years. I am lucky to have a husband with a flexible schedule; he shoulders the lion's share of housework, cooking, and childcare in our home. I'm looking forward to engaging with men and women who can relate to the challenges of modern day life in Silicon Valley. (Hide)
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If you google the words "Michael J. Fox woman baby tree," you will find a story about Michael J. Fox, his battle with Parkinson's disease, and how he reminds himself and his family to stay positive in light of their challenges. A few years ago, he read a story in The New York Times about a woman in Mozambique who was overcome by a flood while in labor. She climbed a tree, delivered her baby, and then waited for help to come.
I do not have a debilitating disease, and I have never had to climb a tree to safely give birth. But I do have tough days around the corner as I head back to work. A few days ago, I met a struggling single mom. She told me a little about herself. She was in her early thirties with three young boys at home. She was living with her mom, working, and trying to get her college degree. She was smart and determined, but she was struggling - emotionally and financially.
I was moved by her story, and it made me grateful for the blessings I have despite the discomforts that loom ahead. With my late-thirties wisdom, I assured her that it would get better; that life can turn on a dime; and if nothing else, she was setting an amazing example for her kids. I felt immense gratitude to her for reminding me of the journey we are all on. While life can be incredibly painful, it's a journey that defines our own identities and those of our families.
I hope I showed this young woman some kindness that helped carry her through her day. She gave me so much more - a timely reflection on what I have to be thankful for and a story to carry in my pocket when the going gets tough next year. It's my version of "A woman had a baby in a tree."
What are you grateful for this season?