Posted by Resident, a member of the Jordan Middle School community, on Jun 8, 2011 at 12:03 pm
Girls wear American Eagle, Abercrombie & Fitch, Hollister (offshoot of A&F), PacSun, UGGs, Converse All-Star sneakers, skinny jeans.
Uniforms would never occur in public schools here. United States is the land of freedom of expression. Besides, Castilleja girls school has uniforms but girls can wear accessories, style their hair, wear their choice of closed-toed shoes, and it is still glaringly obvious who is popular and who is not. It just makes dressing everyday easier.
A factor in popularity is also personality, not just clothing.
Posted by Resident, a member of the Jordan Middle School community, on Jun 8, 2011 at 12:20 pm
@momof2: Then either go live in Japan or buy the right clothing for your daughter. If a child has a great personality, no one cares what she wears. In fact, a girl could wear all the right clothing and still not be popular. America is a democracy, not dictatorship.
Posted by mom of middle school girl, a resident of the Community Center neighborhood, on Jun 8, 2011 at 5:18 pm
What is most popular changes for every grade. What was popular in 6th grade three years ago is not necessarily what's popular in 6th grade now. There was the "uniform" Hollister and A&F t-shirts, a few years ago, but you'll probably not see 8th graders wearing A&F or Hollister... they have moved on to Forever 21.
I would recommend you go to Nordstroms. That's where many people go to, and it would be a pretty "safe" place to shop. I think it's smart to ask, but I also would not worry about brands too much, but instead focus on things that fit, last, and are not over the top.
Posted by FreeUniformChoices, a member of the Jordan Middle School community, on Jun 9, 2011 at 11:26 am
momof2 has a good point about school uniforms. But I would alter this, being that this is America - for all it's good & bad - to instead institute a code for public schools that many private schools use. That is to say, add some restrictions/limitations. Limit the colors and general type of clothes, perhaps, but allow for freedom otherwise. More like what they do with "uniforms" at your local Safeway, etc. This way, we could be sure that the boys are wearing holy jeans that hang down below their waist and the girls aren't wearing inappropriately tight or low-cut tops or short skirts. Clothes can be an expression of individuality. We shouldn't lose that completely. But what should set kids apart in school is their grades, their other achievements and their personalities.
Posted by palo alto mom, a resident of the Duveneck/St. Francis neighborhood, on Jun 9, 2011 at 3:29 pm
Parent - What as always worked for my now HS daughter, was a couple really nice bottoms (jeans and shorts from Abercrombie kids, Nordstroms), hen inexpensive tops from places such as Target.
As far as uniforms - most elementary and middle schools have dress codes which include long enough shorts and skirts, not low cut tops, no sagging pants,etc. While clothes shouldn't be more important than achievements or personality, fitting in is important to most preteens and teen, as sometimes clothes can just be fun.
Momof2, you can send your child to a private school if uniforms are so important. Even then, I don't know of any US school that has uniform shoes and accessories in addition to the basics of skirts, shirts, and pants.
Posted by Resident, a member of the Jordan Middle School community, on Jun 10, 2011 at 9:47 am
You all are just being silly. A uniform is a stated outfit that a child is mandated to wear to school. Jordan does have rules about clothing. Freedom and opportunity is why the rest of the world wants to come to America. You all ought to learn to live and let live instead of trying to change others.
Posted by PA mom, a member of the Gunn High School community, on Jun 13, 2011 at 8:55 am
I find this thread very interesting.
@parent, Great Mall at Milpitas has number of pre-teen/teen clothing outlets: Forever 21, Abercrombie, and Aeropostale. We would set a limit for my girls before school starts with a budget. Then, they'll shop at these outlet stores. It worked well for us.
Hope this helps. BTW, personally I am all for uniforms!!
Posted by Paly Parent, a member of the Palo Alto High School community, on Jun 14, 2011 at 10:30 am
Hey, I thought this was a great question. Because yes, in middle school fitting in does matter, we can talk all about how it shouldn't. My perspective (which might not be completely on target, my girl is in high school now post-jordan, and my jordan kid is a boy)--a few years ago, it was all about the brand, Abercrombie being number one. Then, when the economic collapse hit the kids consciousness, there was a phase of wearing these kind of "designer" clothes became distinctively not-cool, ostentatious in economically troubled times. They now are neither cool nor uncool.
But for the basic "uniform" (and yes, it may not be official, but these kids know what is in or out): go with skinny jeans (pac sun or H&M are good bets), Uggs or Fuggs (Fake-Uggs, there are lots of reasonably priced brands) for cool weather, converse for warm. For tops, these styles change more rapidly, but it's always layers--solid camis or tanks are the basic bottom layer, over it, thin, loose shirts that skim the top of the jeans (the cami hides the tummy) in the summer, long sleeved, tighter (but still pretty tissue thin, you need that cami underneath) in the winter. At least that's what I'm seeing.
Short story--don't spend a lot on the tops, these are faddish. The skinny jeans, uggs, and converse have been in style a long time and will likely stay that way.
Posted by Don't Sexualize our Kids, a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood, on Jun 14, 2011 at 4:01 pm
Abercrombie and Fitch would be the last place I would shop for my daughter based on the sexualizing of children in their large display photos and advertising. I get very repulsed when I walk by the store windows and see that they are selling sex at every opportunity. The models may be over 18 but many of them are deliberately made up to look you younger. I would not support any company that sexualized children. I used to have the same reaction to Calvin Klein; haven't seen any of their ads recently. As parents we don't have to bow to the demands of our children in order for them to "fit in" if it means compromising our principles and values. Take a look at those ads Mom the next time you take your daughter in A and F and if you agree with me you can vote with your wallet and not patronize that store or others that sexualize our kids. Enough is enough. I am glad I no longer have to make decisions about clothing for my kids but I guarantee that my boys were perfectly happy with Costco shirts and other inexpensive, good value clothing. Self-esteem can't be purchased on a hanger.
Posted by Alex, a resident of the Adobe-Meadows neighborhood, on Jun 18, 2011 at 10:14 am
Abercrombie, Aeropostal, American Eagle, Juicy Coutoure, Pink, Hollister, Pac Sun, Forever 21, Abercrombie & Fitch, and H&M. All of these stores are expensive so what I do is go to Khols and JCPenny and go into the Junior Section, pick out some clothes that are on sale (and cute) and drop by a few of these stores to get a few things. All you need are:
Posted by Sunshine Mom, a resident of the Community Center neighborhood, on Sep 19, 2011 at 2:43 pm
My daughter has just started 6th grade, and again, yes, the designer label is much more important now. Justice clothing has become not so "cool"...we love Aeropostale, very affordable, Abrecombie and Hollister for the t-shirts and hoodies, sweat pants too...the dressy flowy blouses, Charlotte Russe, Deb, any will do fine, w/camis underneath...we also like Pink brand hoodies and t-shirts, even though they are alittle large, even in the XS size...def, not to worried about the brand of jeans, as long as they are skinny jeans..converse of course, in lots of colors, and even plaids, and boots, and 1 or 2 pair of really neat, neon colored mixed tennis shoes...you should be all set, and a few cool bras and underwear, seem to be very important now...Good luck..I've been shopping til I drop....and yes, it is important...I don't care what anyone says, it does matter what we look like, as well as what we are on the inside, but unfortunatley, no one in the 6th grade is going to take alot of time to get to know you if you don't look "cool" first...
Posted by Genericmom, a resident of the Barron Park neighborhood, on Sep 19, 2011 at 8:03 pm
Wow. No wonder it's called Shallow Alto. Sorry, but if your seriously looking for which name brands are "like totally hip" as a method to help your daughter feel comfortable with her peers then your doing her a disservice. What happens if all the coolest clothing doesn't grant her entrance to the "right" clique? Go shopping again?
Posted by crazygurl, a resident of another community, on Nov 26, 2011 at 8:12 pm
Aeropostale, Forever 21, Fitch and Abercombrie. Try to keep ur Justice clothes at a minimum. The style-at my middle school anyway-is camis under shirts with the top shirt tied up in the back, hoodies, skinny jeans, and short shorts even in winter (but I don't follow that one). Good luck and keep smiling ;)!
Posted by Parent with 2 college girls, a resident of another community, on Dec 15, 2011 at 1:49 pm
Definitively avoid Justice when you are in Middle school. We loved Wet Seal...sensibly priced and very fashionable. The parents that don't feel it is important to fit in were most likely the ones that did not fit in when they were in school. Yes, you can be successful without fitting in... but why not try to let your daughter have a chance at it. My daughters were always dressed nice...not sloppy and it helped with their confidence.
Posted by Cottencandygirl101, a resident of another community, on Jun 11, 2012 at 7:09 am
I am the most popular girl in 6th and the stores that I mainly shop at are: Forever 21: My favorite! it has clothes,shoes,jewelry,you name it! There website is really awesome because you get really good deals!,Aeropestale: EVERY ONE who is anyone owns at LEAST one of thier signature shirts! Plus I get some of my jeans from their. H&M: They always have all the trendy clothes their, Pac sun: every time I enter that store I find exactly what I want, Old Navy and Gap: If you need basic camisoles or tanks or even jeans shop at one of these stores!, Wetseal: they have very cute, affordable, and just plain out right AWESOME clothes!,Abercrombie & Fitch: The most popular clothes for middle schoolers you can find here, Nordstroms: a HUGE selection so it can be overwhelming but they have pretty much everything, and If you dont want to spend much I suggest the juniors sections of Sears/JCpenny/Target. A few other cool places are Urban Outfitters, Hollister, Rue21, Delia's,Hot Topic, and Pink (if you have the money to spend 40 bucks for yoga pants.
Posted by Hannah, a resident of the Charleston Gardens neighborhood, on Jul 3, 2012 at 7:33 pm
i say aeropostale im going to 6th grade and i def... know there style. Rue 21 is awesome new hip clothes on sale!!! Heres some fun info... to know now aeropostale is going wild with hoodies for 10$ and shirts for 5$ so go to the mall and stock up.For your kids if they are starting middle school heres some tips if ur going to southwestern randolph middle school shirt traps has to at least be as long as an index card and shorts must go below the knee. Also no holes in jeans because they will call your parents and make u go home and change. American eagle is another one peps love to shap there but its expensiv but if ur rich go there because they got cool hip stuff thts all i know hope my info.. was good enough for u peace out ;)
Posted by chris, a resident of the Palo Alto Hills neighborhood, on Aug 17, 2012 at 9:40 am
this thread stinks. What I thought was a decent thread on smart attire for 7th-9th graders is all about psycho moms ranting about being popular and calling names or telling people which country to move to. Seriously ladies, you make a very poor role model.
Posted by palo alto mom, a resident of the Duveneck/St. Francis neighborhood, on Aug 17, 2012 at 9:57 am
Anyone have suggestions for place to buy shorts that meet the middle school dress code - shorts must be longer than your fingertips when your arms are at your side. All the shorts that fit are too short!