Do fences make for better neighbors?
Original post made by Disgusted, Old Palo Alto, on May 11, 2012
I then indicated a sign we had on the lawn, about not allowing dogs to eliminate there, and told them that pee can damage a lawn. He snottily responded to me I should put signs all over the yard, or put up a fence, and that he couldn't see this particular one because it was on the other side of a car parked in the driveway. This, I know to be a lie, because I had seen him at my property before, but never got out of the house fast enough to catch his dog in the act. My elderly mom just put out a lot of money to finally have a new lawn put in after 38 years, and within TWO WEEKS there were THREE dog pee burn marks by the driveway. THOSE DON'T GO AWAY. WHEN YOU ALLOW YOUR DOG TO PEE ON SOMEONE ELSE'S LAWN, YOU ARE QUITE POSSIBLY CAUSING DAMAGE TO THAT PERSON'S PROPERTY!
I have two dogs, but I never allow them on our lawn, to do ANYTHING, much less pee, and I don't allow them on anyone else's. If they have to pee, we use the strip by the curb, and even then, when they begin to pee, I pull them away toward the street to finish. The confrontation ended with hurled insults on both sides, he and his wife because they were arrogant and rude and caught in the act, and me, because more than the dog peeing on the lawn, I was still shocked that people would be so blatantly rude as to ignore someone trying to simply TALK to them.
About two weeks ago I went next door to give something to my neighbor, and noticed a burn mark on the lawn on the exact spot where that dog peed. This, in spite of the fact that after the miserably rude couple had moved on, I immediately poured water on the spot, hoping to dilute the pee.
This morning I saw that woman walking her dog, again, the dog was on someone's lawn, just not ours. I stopped my car and again, attempted to talk to her, nicely at first. After she yet once again, ignored me, I continued to speak, and told her that her dog had damaged our lawn, and that we have changed our security camera's to focus on the lawn, and that if I saw her dog peeing on our lawn again, I would call the police and show them the picture. Again, no response.
It may seem like a small thing, but really, it isn't. The bigger picture is indicative of where Palo Alto is heading, a place of hostility and entitlement. Ironically, for one of the most educated cities in the state, it's sad that so many of the people in Palo Alto seem to not have been educated in manners or respect for others.
Just when I think I've reached an age where I've seen and experienced the best and worst of what people do, I am again surprised by the sheer self centered narcissistic arrogance of the people we used to call, 'neighbors.'