Can anyone explain Prop 8 to me?
Original post made by Ralph, Midtown, on Oct 16, 2008
How can banning some marriages protect others? Tying the concept of marriage to religious intolerance may do more to 'taint' marriage than allowing a minority of civil marriages to be same sex. I believe that marriage as an institution strengthens relationships. It is beneficial for all lasting couples. Denying its benefits to some, will obviously harm them, but it will give the institution an air of intolerance which is bad for everyone. To protect marriage we must keep the legal institution civil and available to all.
Gay marriages are not a threat to straight couples. My older brother and his wife live in San Francisco. They're raising two kids. They're a fine happy couple. If there's anything threatening their marriage it's that they both work full time, but he does substantially less than 50% of the house work... If their gay neighbors got married, my brother and sister-in-law probably wouldn't even notice, unless they got invited to the ceremony. It is no threat. Honestly it's not even OF INTEREST to them, and they live within a few miles of the "infamous" Castro District!
25 years ago, if you asked religious leaders why they opposed gay rights they would cite horribly flawed studies which "proved" that gays and lesbians were pathologically promiscuous and incapable of forming lasting meaningful relationships.
Now, it's a new century and what do you know? Gay couples who have been together for 5, 20 or 50 years (even without the social reinforcements that straight couples get) are taking a "better late than never approach" and getting married!
But, rather than admitting they were wrong, and supporting the lasting meaningful relationships they doubted could exist, those same church leaders are somehow calling more marriages an attack on marriage!
I can't help concluding that some churches (mostly from out of state) just don't like gay people, and they get some kind of thrill out of opposing them at every turn. Maybe it's easier in difficult time to provide a spiritual enemy to their people than to provide meaningful spiritual guidance?
In any case, prop 8 has nothing to do with protecting marriage. It has everything to do with the separation of church and state.
The organizers of Prop 8 are well funded, religious right organizations from outside of California. They have invaded our state to try to overturn the sound logic of our bipartisan supreme court and they are using all manner of scare tactics and bad logic to do it.
The most outrageous part is that California churches are not and will not be forced to accept gay people or to perform gay marriages under the current law. Nobody is telling California churches what they can or can not do. But these out of state churches want to dictate what the state can do with respect to the civil and legal aspects of marriage.
Please don't be fooled. Prop 8 is divisive, unnecessary and bad policy for California. Vote no on Prop 8!