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Original post made by Norm on Nov 9, 2007

I'm not judging - just observing and sharing.

I just spent an hour online at the main library seated next to a young lady (high school age) who spent her entire hour watching last nights "Grey's Anatomy" online.

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Posted by normal, a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Nov 9, 2007 at 4:37 pm

[Portion removed by Palo Alto Online staff.] Maybe she has no TV at home and this is her one vice. How did you spend your one hour - watching over her shoulder?


Posted by Only in Palo Alto, a resident of Menlo Park
on Nov 9, 2007 at 4:59 pm

I plan on watching it when I get home ...on TIVO.
Not quite sure why this should bother you. It's better than going to a friend's house to drink beer, shoplifting or having sex after school. We should be happy that this girl made a decision to watch a TV show at the library instead of god knows what else on a Friday.
GOOD FOR HER!


Posted by janette, a resident of College Terrace
on Nov 11, 2007 at 7:24 am

Who are you, the Kid Police? Perhaps she is at the library because her parents are both working. Would you prefer she was roaming the streets?
Is it a crime to watch an hour of television?

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Posted by Terry, a resident of Midtown
on Nov 11, 2007 at 1:17 pm

Sounds like you might be judging ;-)

Maybe you think the computers should be used for research? But of course, most of the books in the library are for pleasure, plus they lend CDs and DVDs (maybe even Grey's Anatomy), so entertainment is definitely within the library's mission.

Maybe that girl watches to much TV, who knows. But hard to gauge based on a one-hour snapshot of her life.


Posted by Watch Norm, a resident of Leland Manor/Garland Drive
on Nov 12, 2007 at 9:26 am

Sounds to me like this "Norm" may bear some watching also.


Posted by Norm, a resident of Midtown
on Nov 14, 2007 at 3:45 pm

Yeeow!! Spank me for seeing something in a public place. It was rude of me to let her sit at the work station next to the one I was using!!! But seriously....

Most of you helped me prove a point to someone else. But let me back up bit.

Personally, I don't give a rat's whatever about who watches what, searches for what on the net (with specific notorious excepts), or whose computer they use. The posting was prompted by a discussion/debate I had with someone a day or 2 prior regarding, in part, whether people really care about who does what if they are not personally affected (a very subjective concept). (It grew out of a seed that grew from a learned v. innate behavior question. A whole other topic to big for here.)
The bonus was that most were not bothered by the young lady's (or their sponsorship of it via tax dollars), but the factor that someone was watching (snooping) was more bothersome – likely based (I just guessing) we don't like others watching us; possibly judging us, and telling other what we saw.
Oddly, we are all watchers (some would say "voyeurs" to one degree or another), as demonstrated by the mass of media and the range of content – the Wall Street journal down to the Enquirer, NPR to Howard Stern, BBC World News and Jerry Springer, plus mountains of magazines and petabytes of who knows what on the net. Communication is about the sharing of information, knowledge. We want it free, unfettered, unfiltered – unless is offends our sensibilities, counters our opinion, or we are the topic.
But I digress.....

Thanks for helping demonstrate people aren't bothered if they see no connection (remote as it may be) to themselves.


Posted by Terry, a resident of Midtown
on Nov 14, 2007 at 4:31 pm

Umm, ok Norm. Hope you enjoyed your social experiment.


Posted by Parent, a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Nov 14, 2007 at 4:53 pm

Maybe she was just watching a show her parents wouldn't let her watch at home and she didn't want to appear uncool to her friends.
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Posted by midtown mom, a resident of Midtown
on Nov 14, 2007 at 9:31 pm

I don't know why, but I was LOL @ this thread! We certainly have some funny people on our online Town Forum. :- )

On a more serious note, Norm, Grey's Anatomy seems pretty inoculous to me. Compared to the number of times I have had to set next to people looking @ really expicit porn sites, I would take Grey's Anatomy anyday. BTW, a couple of those times, the person checking out those porn sites was a CHILD between the ages of 10-12. As a Mom, I was so upset I went to the librarian about it, & was told there was nothing she could do. Nathurally, I opened up my big mouth to the kids, & asked them if their Mother knew what they were doing. On one occasion, the kids (there were 2 boys) immediately left. On another occasion, the kid told me to mind my own business. Never one to shirk from a smart mouthed brat, I then informed him I knew his Mother, & would be in touch with her. The boy turned pale, & then promply clicked out of the porn site.

And Janette, you can go right ahead & call me The Kid Police. I'm happy to wear my Mom badge out in the open: anytime, anyplace. Remember, it takes a village.


Posted by Sparky, a resident of Barron Park
on Nov 14, 2007 at 9:41 pm

Personally I like the kid who told you to buzz off. I guess every village needs a village busy-body. If you see my kids checking out porn in the library (better than a lot of place I can think of), keep your "tsk tsks" to yourself, ok?


Posted by Another mom, a resident of Crescent Park
on Nov 14, 2007 at 9:50 pm

Good work, midtown mom. I once told a kid who was shouting to his friend in a store to please lower his voice, that he was in a store. I was afraid his mother might get mad at me. (she didn't). No sense imagining what terrible things she might have done instead, there is no basis for that.
I thought Norm was thinking about something else.Since lots of kids do this in the library and also they play computer games, do we want to spend a lot of money to accommodate those uses.


Posted by normal, a resident of Another Palo Alto neighborhood
on Nov 15, 2007 at 12:30 am

Hi Norm, I'm 'normal' here, the first poster. Too bad the editors deleted my first sentence where I asked you why this was important to share on Town Square. It did seem fishy, and now we know why.


Posted by midtown mom, a resident of Midtown
on Nov 15, 2007 at 11:23 am

Sorry, Sparky, no can do.
Children & pornography do not go together, whether in the library or anywhere. My sincere suggestion regarding your ideas on the matter is to discuss it with a professional child development expert. The Children's Health Council, & The Jewish Family & Children Services would be great places to start. Better yet, talk to your child's Pediatrician @ the next visit; he or she will most certainly be interested in making a referral for you.
Good Luck!


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